Everyday in our life ever since we hit puberty, flirting has become a hobby in our daily events. We flicker our eyes, smile shyly, and sometimes uses pick-up lines we googled in the internet just for the fun of it. Sometimes these harmless acts lead to something serious and people hooked up. Sometimes people took it too seriously and broke their own heart when they found out it meant nothing. So how do we tell if the flirt is harmless, or if it really means something?
I was seated next to a cool guy, kinda good looking on the plane to Sabah. At first he was kinda stuck-up-ish and i didn't want further awkwardness by starting a weird conversation. But after an hour of being cramped in a seat he started talking to me and asking questions about my life. One topic led to another and suddenly he was asking me out for a drink. Then he started saying i reminded him of a hot actress on TV. And this was AFTER he told me he was married with 3 children. And that's where my friendliness hit the brakes. Whoa... mister...! do i look like a home-breaker?~
But then I sat down thinking, it must have been some meaningless flirt to see if he still has it. He probably didn't really asked me out but trying to see if i would say yes. People do it all the time. Even i do it. I don't mean anything, since I am in a relationship already (it's complicated, open but still a relationship) but it's fun to see people's reactions when you flirt. Some make jokes about it and we just end up laughing and having a good time. But some took it too far and went to the next level (meaning sex invitations).
If I was to stop all the flirting, life would be so boring. Yeah it would make my boyfriend less jealous and happy to have ALL my attention finally. It would stop people from labeling me. And it would make me a stuck up biyach. I had gone through a 5 year stagnant relationship and the boringness made me wanna scream so bad i almost went nuts. This is the person I am. And as long as I don't go naked for you or tell you i love you with glimmering eyes and promising future, all my flirts are HARMLESS and means nothing. *Online wise, as long as it's in a general conversation area where many people can read it's NOT serious as i do not take local chats seriously* And as long as i don't have a ring around my finger I think i would like to have some freedom to have a little fun.
As long as you stay away from getting too deep, i think a little flirt is ok. Once you see things are getting a weee bit too far it's time to hit the brakes and change to reverse gear. Unless you really want something to happen between you and him/her it's best to keep your flirts clean and PG13. And geez if you're married, try NOT flirting, seriously. I just hate it when married people even think they can woo me. It's immoral, stupid and ridiculous. i do not flirt with married dudes. -be told-
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