Jealousy is a feeling of discomfort in the heart when you see something that u want or desire lingers around something that is not you. It's a need unfulfilled. It's a disease if not controlled can ruin your life and everything that you cherish.
In a relationship, what if there's no jealousy at all? What if there's too much space and freedom for both parties to stray without either one having any feeling of frustration or disappointment?Doesn't this mean that the relationship is unhealthy and practically worthless as both of you don't care if there's a possibility one of you can find another?
Personally I think it's necessary to have some slight jealousy to make a relationship work. It's a nice rush when your partner worries about you being stolen by someone else. Makes you feel appreciated and wanted and loved. And shows how much he/she doesn't like sharing you with another thus trying harder to make sure your attention belongs to only him/her. If they always use the phrase "I trust you" even when you do your best to make em jealous usually it means "I don't care you can be with whoever you want. I dont love you that much anyway..." Then it's time to move on and be with someone who does care and wants you to be just theirs.
*NOTE FOR GIRLS*
It starts to really suck when in a relationship only one person feels the pain of jealousy while the other couldn't care any less. My opinion, if he is not scared of the possibility of losing you to another it either means :-
1. He doesn't love you that much and doesn't care about losing you
2. He has a plan B. (Meaning he has another girl on the side, you moron!)
3. You're ugly
4. He's hot (or he thinks he is) that he knows you'll be crawling back to him soon anyway.
The trick is to treat him EXACTLY how he treats you. If he's not jealous why do you even bother? Move on! Start to NOT care! (and if he is the superjealous kind, be that way too. Let him know how being tied up feels like!)
Back to jealousy...
However, it's the kind of thing that can kill when it's too much. Obsession is never a healthy thing for anyone. Too much jealousy is like putting chains around your feet. When jealousy becomes thicker, trust becomes thinner, to the point where it messes up your emotions and leads to constant fights and destroys the whole relationship. Sooner or later the chains becomes barb wires that causes more pain while still imprisoning you.
Love with no trust is no love in the first place. But Love with too much trust is just careless.
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ReplyDeletei always find your opinion interesting, i likes how self confident you are, yea. XD lolz damn i wanted to write somethin smart but i can't seems like XD
You know bout the note for girls... i mean cmon its not as simple as that, ugly, hot? is that what love is about? :)
about the rest i completely agree :]
anyways peace, leppz :]
haha "something smart" too funny :p
ReplyDeletewell, i kinda feel uncomfy when ur man gives u too much freedom as if he doesnt care bout losing u. A little jealousy just shows how much he cares. it's cute :P and if he dont bother to be a tiny bit jealous when guys flirt with ya, it means he knows ur not capable of it xD (ie ur too ugly to stray)